Goin' for it

Trusting yourself

I just finished a gem of a book called “The Uncool” by Cameron Crowe, and boy, did I get the exact message I needed.

I can talk about the mechanics of movement all day long, but at the end of the day, none of that fucken matters if you don’t have the guts to go for your life.

I say guts, because when you are truly going for your life, you are putting certain things risk.

Money. Your Identity. Relationships. A predictable life.

When I started the Den, I was in a full go for it energy.

I felt as if I had nothing to lose and I was willing to ditch my identity to manifest my vision.

There was no guarantee of success and that was fine with me. I had my soul’s approval and that carried more weight than any person or dollar amount.

Admittedly, over the last year or so I’ve fallen off that path. I’ve chosen comfort and stability.

I’ve held on too tight to the things I earned.

I spent more time chatting with ChatGPT than real humans.

I lost trust in myself.

So when I picked up the book the Uncool, something clicked for me again.

If you don’t know Cameron Crowe, he is the famous writer/director that Almost Famous is based off.

He was a teenage wonder boy who left his youth to work for the Rolling Stone and covered all the legendary musicians of the rock era in the 70s.

In his story he brings you into a time where serendipity, creativity and spontaneity were the driving forces of the culture.

Something I feel we are desperately lacking in this digital age.

But the main reason the book was so resonant is because he absolutely goes for his life.

He doesn’t succumb to his parents wishes of going to law school or hold himself back because of what his peers are doing.

He goes for it. Over and over again and manifests a life beyond his wildest dreams.

He trusts his journey.

And that’s where I’m coming back to now.

Not everything needs to be perfectly lined up to go for it.

We can initiate things we’re drawn to without prompting AI for validation.

We can trust that the earth will catch us when we inevitably all.

We can pivot out of a relationship or business if it no longer feels aligned.

We can start over and allow our soul to guide us.

So after a little hiatus, I am ready to start going for it again.

And that excites the hell out of me.

Some of us are just not wired for the traditional life.

I toyed around with trying to do real estate the “traditional way” and keeping the Den afloat.

And the funny thing is, I made less $$ putting more time into my real estate than the year before (when I was tapped into my go for it energy.)

Sure I kept things running. But that’s not what I’m here to do.

I’m here to create. To generate. To make a real difference.

And to bring people on the ride with me.

So thank you Cameron Crowe for inspiring me to get back into my go for it energy.

A few beautiful nuggets from his story that I am implementing:

• Own the uniqueness of your journey (no one’s been in your shoes before. Step into yourself and share your story)

• Love your family (He appreciated and showed up for everyone in his family. It’s not always easy to show up authentically and get along with family. Find where there is overlap and put in the effort. It’s worth it)

• Make your own rules (He didn’t always stay in journalistic integrity. He befriended a lot of the musicians he was covering. But you know what, that was in the spirit of his work. It’s what differentiated him. You can make your own rules and stay in integrity)

• Stay Open (His dreams kept evolving. What started as a writer evolved into a film director and eventually a play director. He was open and not afraid to take on new projects)

So here we are, 2.5 years into this and if I’m being honest the Den has been under construction for the last little while.

When I initiated this, my dream was to create a space and find a partner. I landed on both and then had no clue what the fuck I was going for after.

I was middling between some dance of comfort and courage.

I stopped building.

And that’s okay. It takes time to land on new directions.

It requires you to let go of the life you thought you’d have.

And that is the most courageous thing you can do.

Work your ass off. Earn your new circumstances and then be willing to let go of that in pursuit of your next embodied truth.

So I’ve landed on my next step.

It feels right.

It feels bold.

And it feels just scary enough to make me feel alive.

I am willing to look uncool.

Because it’s time to start goin for it again.