Higher Frequencies

The dream is in the in between

I’m sitting here in Southern California on a beautiful sunny day and I feel at total ease.

This place is special to me.

It’s where I initially tried to launch the Den.

The people. The Vibe. The Weather. The Frequency. It all feels so nourishing to my system.

So when I come here every February on vacation with my family, I look at potential Den properties to try and manifest a move.

The first Den building I looked at in Cardiff by the Sea.

I remember our first Den event at Christie Pitts, I overheard someone saying “I don’t know why he wouldn’t just do this in California?”

That stuck with me.

I’ve been California dreamin’ for years.

I have community here. It seems there are Den adjacent folks everywhere and I always feel in my highest frequency. It all makes sense.

But now, what’s got me most excited, is that this is no longer the dream.

California or Toronto. Real Estate or The Den. I’m no longer consumed by where or what I’m doing.

I am invigorated by the frequency I’m cultivating inside.

After searching for the “dream life” for years, I feel like I am starting to arrive, within myself.

I’m realizing you can have all the fancy objects you want, but if you’re not doing the inner work daily, your external success won’t feel satisfying.

This is my current wave. To create a beautiful reality from a beautiful frequency.

We work on this in my men’s group – what musical note do you want to experience in pursuit of your goals?

What I’ve awakened to is the whole allure of California is the frequency that I’m operating in when I’m here.

Mainly because I do deep somatic work every time (thank you Dance Alive) and because I allow myself to get into a grateful, curious and dropped in state.

When I’m here, I tap into a frequency that is powered by an inside/outside rhythm.

Not an outside, outside, “Go make something happen!”.

To maintain this state is a full-time job (especially when you’re in an environment that isn’t promoting this way of living).

You need to honor the dance of listening and doing.

You need to be honest with yourself about what actions are needed in your relationships, work, health/self.

And to be honest you need to really slow down.

Slowing down enough to listen inside to what is being called of you.

And that seems like the movement for me now – to find the juice in the micro moments.

My courageous acts recently haven’t been about a big launch or a new business venture.

Though I am generating opportunities that once would have felt like “big waves” –these no longer feel like portals of transformation.

My system is smart enough to know that there are different pathways for me to reach a higher frequency.

For me the current pathway is:

Feeling more deeply.

Communicating truths from a heartfelt, embodied place.

Having a great attitude and loving the work I’m doing - regardless of whether it’s The Den or Real Estate.

Showing up with care and deeper presence.

These things are hard for me.

And to commit to them fully, I will have to unlock a version of myself that I haven’t tapped into before.

A gentler way.

And the gentle thing for me to do right now is to let go of the big fancy dreams.

Embrace the micro moments and let life unfold organically.

It doesn’t mean that I don’t have big dreams.

It just means that I’m willing to evolve in quieter ways.

With every output, I’m willing to take in the input.

And from there I can do the movements necessary to keep things in motion in my life.

This is where the higher frequency lives.